Ephesians 4:29 Amplified “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.”
Are you convicted, maybe convicted again, when you read this verse? That’s really not a bad thing. It’s what you do as a result of conviction that determines your walk with the Lord, and determines the effectiveness of your witness to others. The reason the Lord brings conviction in this, or any area, is because of His great love for you and mercy towards you. He wants to bring you closer in your walk with Him, but some of your old fleshly ways are hindering both you and others through you.
What comes out of your mouth every time you open it? In your church setting? Around your family and friends away from the church setting? Is every word good and beneficial to their spiritual progress, sometimes including very firm correction with the Word, in love, as well as words of praise and affirmation? Is your honest answer the same for both groups of people in your life?
When you relax with friends and family, if you are like me, you probably tend to let down your guard with your words. After all, these are the people you trust and who will love you no matter what, right? That may be true, but that’s not the crystal clear direction God gave. He allowed for no exceptions. He is very clear in saying not to let any foul or polluting language, evil word, unwholesome or worthless talk ever come out of your mouth; however, He doesn’t stop with the “Do Not”. He goes on to say what you are to allow to come forth instead – only such speech as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as fits the need and occasion, so that all who hear it (Notice it’s not just the ones to whom we speak directly who will hear; there can be others in the vicinity who hear, as well.) will be blessed and receive grace – by the words of your mouth – every time.
Maybe your words really are good most of the time because you have already grown much in this area. The standard is clear, however, and it’s not a most of the time standard. It’s all the time. This isn’t an impossibility, or He’d never have told you to do it; nor would He bring conviction when you don’t. His kindness leads you to repentance (Romans 2:4). He wants you convicted of and living in the Truth of His Word for your life, not condemned by your words. That’s one reason Jesus gave you His Holy Spirit. Yield to His conviction every time you speak contrary to this verse, and rejoice that He loves you so much as to correct you so you will look more and more like Him. Not only will others be able to see Him in your actions, but they will hear Him in your words. To know Christ and make Him known – every time you open your mouth!